A couple of weeks ago I met up with my sister/close friend after getting my hair done. Immediately after I got out of the car to greet her she looked at me and says, “Why are you hiding”? Now, of course, one would expect to be showered with compliments after a new hairdo, but for me, that wasn’t the case. I took one look at her and said, “I knew you would know”. See while others complimented me and told me how good it looked, my true sister was able to see beyond my bandages. Beyond the hair, behind the lip gloss, behind the smile. The past several years has been a war for me. I’ve had to war for my family, war for my children, war for my health, war for my business, and war for my marriage. The warfare was so intense in my life that if it hadn’t been for the grace of God I would have lost everything, including my mind.
My warfare left me with scars. Scars that I tried to hide under the weaves, the smile, the make-up, the serving. Yes, the serving! My heart, my soul, my finances, my hair, my health, and my marriage were all broken and bruised because of the war I endured. I tried to hold on to what I thought made me who I was and was afraid to show my true scars. Today I made the most fearless decision to remove the bandages and let my true war scars show. I cut away at every split end of not only my hair but my life. I cut away at the split end of depression. I cut away at the split end of rejection. I cut away at the split end of guilt and shame. I cut away at the split end of insecurity. I cut away at the split end of man's approval. I cut away at the split end of trying to be who I thought I should be to be accepted and loved by everyone.
How many split ends are you still carrying around weighing yourself down? It’s time to start cutting so you can grow in a healthy state and be who God called you to be unapologetically. Once you start cutting away you will look down just as I did and realize that everything you were trying to hold on to wasn’t much anyway. Stop holding on to the split ends and remove the bandages so you too can show the strength and beauty within your scars.
Mrs. Cynthia Williams-Bey